My sitch is under MLC. My wife is clearly in crisis. Pushed very hard for the D and never could really explain why.
I saw her today for the first time since March. She came by the house and thought I was gone. When she realized I was at home she started to drive away and I walked out the front door and she backed up and drove back into the driveway.
I was shocked at how she looked. Very very skinny. She seems to have aged 10 years. Her face was all broken out. Her legs were scarred up and scraped up as if she had fallen recently. She couldn't look me in the eyes at first. When she finally did she began to cry and shake. I opened up her car door and we hugged very tightly and I began to stroke her hair and shoulder.
I feel nothing but love and compassion for this woman and it was tough seeing her this way. I love her more than anything but I was able to show compassion and caring in a semi detached way. It was like caring for a child. I'd never seen her like this.
She looked broken. She is definately MLC. Very sad. Our relationship started in Oct 1997, we were married in February 1986. Referring to myself as divorced feels really strange.
I think my ExW will come out of this after she hits bottom. I will carry on with my life in the meantime.
I'd be lying though if I said I didn't want reconciliation. So what do I do along those lines from here?
Me- 47 W- 45 Married 22 years Together 30 years No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat 2005 - 2007 W in MLT 1/08 - Crisis hits 3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA 4/08 W files for divorce 8/08 Divorce final
