Thank you so much - I'm glad that we finally got to see the cursed post. You have some great suggestions that I will certainly try to implement.
I'm reading the Five Love Languages right now - I think I'm through Chapter 9 - and something that I read today while flying home gave me an idea that I thought I'd throw out here for comment. I'm fairly sure that my wife's love language is "acts of service". I've tried at various times in the past to do things for her that I thought she would appreciate, but I think that maybe I haven't picked the things that really help her to feel loved. Also, I mentioned the other day that she surprised me by saying that she didn't even feel like we were friends anymore. Therefore in order for her to feel loved, and to feel like I'm her friend, I thought this might help. On a piece of paper, I'd write the following:
1. List five things that I could do on a regular basis which would help you to feel that I love you.
2. List three ways that I could be a better friend.
3. List three things that the two of us could do together which you would consider to be really fun.
Those are a little rough still - I can probably come up with a better way to word them - but I'm sure you get the idea. I'd ask her to take some time and think about her answers because I'm going to do my best to follow through on them. And of course she could always add more later - I just threw out some numbers to give her something to shoot for. My thinking is that if I actually knew the things that would help her to feel loved and to feel that I'm her friend, I could do a lot better job of "filling her love tank" than I can by guessing.
Please let me know if I'm onto something here and if anyone can think of any better way to go about this.
