For the Guy with Kids and a WW 10

[lost_in_space]

I understand about wanting someone to love and someone to love you back...trust me, I get it. I also know though, that if I allow myself to crack that door open, the results will be devastating. One of the biggest reasons I don't/haven't even tried to start thinking about someone else is I don't want to ever to to someone else what has been done to me. I don't ever want the knowledge that I used someone else to make me feel better. I'm not saying that you would do that, its just how I feel. I don't feel I can legitimately start trying to make those kinds of connections until this situation I'm in, is done. I would hate to drag someone else into this drama and all it would do is jack up any potential R I would have with someone else.

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BTW...your W is not happy, she puts on a good dog and pony show, but shes not happy, just so you know.

H4H,

S&S has said it all right there. You do not want to sink into the pit. Would it ease the pain? temporarily, no doubt. But I think you (and S&S and me and [add many many names here]) would regret that immensely - we are better than that.

For what it is worth...

I see a lot of my W in GBG - the "happy attitude", the "I'll take care of it", the "this is what I want", but I agree with S&S for you - your W is not happy. (FWIW, I think my W is very lost and is losing more everyday, especially where the K's are involved).

Stay strong bud.