Okay, I know I'm going to regret the stupid subject line, but I don't really have a subject at the moment. It seems my previous thread no longer works, therefore I have to create a new one so that MPT can post the reply that she was unable to post earlier. Of course I welcome advice and comments from anyone, I've just singled MPT out because she specifically stated in AchingMan's thread that she tried to post and couldn't.
Now that I've figured out how to do this, here are the links to my previous threads:
Guess I should give a brief update. I decided a couple of weeks ago that in order to someday see some improvement in my situation, I need to do two things. First, I absolutely have to stop putting pressure on my wife by trying to talk to her about the lack of intimacy in our relationship, pouting about how it's affecting me, suggesting that she read the SSM, and most of all having the sex argument. Second, I feel like I need to stop initiating anything even remotely sexual. I've basically stopped touching her with the exception of innocent goodbye kisses. After two weeks I'm actually doing pretty well. I've remained fairly upbeat and for once I don't feel like I'm on the verge of breaking down and saying or doing something that would set us back. She seems to be happy at the moment although there's been no sudden increase in her desire for romance. But I'm determined to stick with my plan because I really think it may just take some time to get past the anxiety and hurt feelings from previous arguments. I'm leaving town Sunday to work out of state for a week so I should easily make it through that without any screw-ups. I just have to make sure that I keep it up when I get back because she expects me to either get pouty or blow up soon after returning from out of town. I've done so several times in the past.
Anyway, that's about it. I'll have a computer with me while I'm out of town so keep the advice and comments coming. Hope everyone has a great Fourth of July.
