I am thinking you meant detaching. It was really hard for me. It took forever to get to the point where my h didn't consume my every thought. I had to take it one day at a time, sometimes minute by minute. It worked but it is a long process to find peace in your life. At that point I knew I could make it with or without my h. I had become stronger than I had ever thought I could be. I could manage the house and things that went wrong by myself. I grew as a person, not just a wife and mother. I found myself! When my h came back home for good, he noticed all the changes and like them!!!! I guess through the years I had become to dependent on my h and finally found my own independence.
