The Sweet Used-To-Be (17)

[mountainman]

I have read others say that the best DBing happens after you give up. I think that is true.

I think that is true as well. I have been the emotional mess since this all started happening in February. I finally decided to give up and give her a seperation a month and a half ago. It was hard in the beginning but a surprising thing started to happen. I started the process of moving on. I pictured myself as a happy person without her. I faced the reality of getting a divorce and once I faced it, I wasn't as a afraid. I am probably as afraid now of staying together as I am breaking up so to me, right now, either road is fine and as long as it may take, I will be happy in the end. I made changes in me and have learned many things about myself through all of this. If it does work out between us, I will still look back on this experience as a necessary step for me to grow into who I need to be and who she needs me to be.

thanks for the insight into how you handled things when you were in my sitch!