I text are they up. She responds 15 minutes later, yes.
I text: How are we going to handle school. I would rather discuss this in voice. Call me later.
She text: What do we need 2 discuss?
I text: School nights you work they should stay with me.
She text: Then u need to talk to D tonight cause she prob. wont w u.
I also went to send them off to school on the first day together. They need their rest. On days you have them I want called in the morning by them.
She text: They r sleeping w me tonight i want them. i will b at ur house in morn. U never broght them on the first day of school y now?
I text: You never let me. I also made the mistake of not doing it with you. I always thought it wa s your thing. Sorry. I made mistakes.
I text: if you come to the house in the morning i want you to be calm. Let me handle them calmly. Getting dressed. Eating. Etc...
She text: Ok.
I text: I was the provider and you were the nurturer. You were the glue. Now I feel I have to be both, since you left. I'm a single parent, and you felt like you always were. I don't think it true, but you do. I understand why you felt that way.
I text: The kids need stability. Not bounced around at night on school nights.
I text: Lets just be the best parents we can be for them.
She text: Ok
I text: I'm not your enemy. Stand by me as equals.
I text: The kids never wanted me to take them on the first day remember. Son was a pain on his first day. He only wanted you to take him.
I text: Look how long it took before he would let me take him. They were still in schock over the windows.
I text: Then you and I started having major problems. ----------------------------------------------------- I'm done...
I believe a lot of our issues stem from the fact that I wasn't parenting the way she wanted me too. I never did the Santa Claus thing in her mind. I never went to school events. I never took them on their first day. etc...
Hopefully I broke down some walls, or I made things worse.
