How to start from scratch in 12 Mos Separation ?

[SingleDad]

Thanks Neil.

I know for sure now that I have been going about it the wrong way. somehow I had come to believe that my situation was different. Since she claims she is leaving me because I did not show her enough of my love - I thought If I did show her my love and tell her - that her love for me would come back - obviously though it just pushed her further away. I was doing it that way for several months.

Now that our 4th anniversary has passed as and I expressed my love - now I will back off and not do anymore of that needy stuff. Wasted 2.5 months of the separation trying to convince her to come back (plus several months before the separation started)... Now 9.5 mos left to work on myself and re-learn how to Get A Life - that's the hardest part because I want my family back - not my single life - but that's not how to approach it.

Had read DB months ago. Last night went to the bookstore and read DR mostly - DR is a great book - and took 6 pages of notes... Like it was written for me... I now have to be dedicated to the Last Resort Technique - its the only option I have left.

It's just so sad... I feel terrible for my Daughter and what my life has become in a failed marriage. Every thing I work for, now it seems I have so little left... feel like I am just scraping by... and going home to an empty house usually. I have to change my thought process somehow to think positively and find things I enjoy... GAL