Hi Nopkins I don't think you should give up this time either. But the thing is she is not going to change overnight. Push her gently along, but dont let up.
I think things were going ok then you had this fight and it brought up all the old bad feeling. So sort it out between you first. Then say something but make it something nice.
Quote: really don't know what I should apologize for. I have been a good husband to her.
Men!! You aren't apologising for being a bad husband. Just for hurting her feelings that time. It's like thanking someone for a present they gave you which you actually hate. Its the right thing to do, you don't have to mean it. I bet you are sorry you hurt her feelings (even if she is in need of a can of WHOMPASS) Just make her feel good, sort out this row and move on. Then you can start working on the sex problems again.
Quote: When I realize that I have been dealing with the sex issue most of our married life, which is now most of my life, then I get a wee bit pissy
who can blame you. But something must have made it worth your while. Don't think of this as wasted time. You love your w and I expect you have a lot of good reasons why. Think about them for a while and you may feel more charitable towards her. Try writing them all down you might be surprised what you come up with, I tried this once and it made me think about how much I take for granted with my H.
Don't think I am saying you shouldn't keep working on you problems. I just think you need to get your R into better shape first. Also I agree your W might have some sort of underlying reason to be inhibited about sex. Perhaps some counselling might help.
