So what do you do for a anniversary?

[sandycay]

Marcum,

I'll tell you what I did for my 17th anniversary. NOTHING. I even saw him at our daughters softball game. I didn't mention it but went on with my self as if it weren't. It was tough but I lived. I made sure I had lots of plans with other people. He said NOTHING too. Now we had more contact than you because of kids, but honestly I figured he was the one that left if he had approached it I would have responded. A few days later after it had passed and he was being "ruder" in his communication with me I called him on it. I told him as the mother and his wife of 17 years why could he not have said something to me. I told him that his not asking about my school, my life seemed rude to me. After all he said "we should always be friends because of the kids". I told him friends ask about each others welfares. Well, he said I was right.....he then started asking those little trivial questions....how's it going, how's school..he made it a point.....he even started asking to get the kids instead of me saying "can you get the kids". That was always a sticky point for me.....ah rambling again.

I would say NOTHING, but that just my opinion. Think about why you would say something and think about the outcome. If she really isn't looking back, this won't make her either. But it might get her attention if you do nothing.

Now, she might come at you negative about not doing anything...I would calmly state...I understand how you feel that way, but I am trying to respect your boundaries. It doesn't have to be this way. END of conversastion. Unless, she turns to positive about it.

Good Luck