I agree with TD. My H wanted to discuss the issues with me but my L told me not to. My H's L sent a proposal to my L & that is where it all started.
I hope you have a good lawyer that will stand up for you. In my state it was supposed to be 50/50 split but you see it didn't go that way. It was 60/40 but the way it turned out my H didn't get any cash (which is the main thing he wanted), what little he got went to L's fees. He did get to keep his retirement but that is how I got to keep the house plus he had an A so my L went after him.
