I can describe our sex life with no adult content. In fact, in a word - formulaic.
Foreplay is always the same. Same position, same exact application of technique each time. The act itself is in the same position each time and approximately for the same duration. Each party is "satisfied". Elapsed time, 20 minutes. Almost any variation wrecks the formula and the encounter.
I think I have discussed this in a previous post and came to the same conclusion, except I couldn't deal with the idea of formula sex for the rest of my life. I don't know that I have actually made a leap out of that little quandry as of yet. Oh well.
How do you avoid routine? Simple. Do something you like this time and something he likes next time. Then do something random. If you can only pop using a vibrator, fine, incorporate it into your play. The point is that sex is fun. If you can't stand the idea of being naked in front of your husband, then you need to get by that right away.
If I had to define anti-routine behavior in a single word, it would be 'uninhibited'. There is no sin, no condemnation, and nothing wrong with being uninhibited with ones spouse. Period. Let go, and you will have such a good time. Better than you thought possible. Doing it with someone you love.... Well, I don't know how it gets any better than that.
When is the last time you spent the day naked? Dressed up in some sexy clothes or lounged around in a sweatshirt and socks (nothing else). Want to drive hime crazy? Give it a try.
Have you ever made love in a tent, or a rock overlooking a lake. Or how about didling while you watch a movie together. Sex is as much about being together and sharing as talking through a rough day at the office. Sure animalistic release can be fun too, but it is just a single facet of being together.
All of the people I have known in really longterm relationships (>35 years) had a history of great sex. It was an integral part of their relationship, and seemed to be something they found very natural and comfortable.
Have you ever had a really comfy pair of old shoes. You wore them until the soles were gone, and you still hated the idea of throwing them away? I think sex should be that way. Never complacent, but always comfortable and inviting, even when it is exciting and adventurous.
Maybe I am just getting old, but I really don't find the idea of sex with 3 girls all that exciting anymore. When I was young, guys would kill for such an encounter. In truth, such an encounter is a lot of work. What I long for is togetherness, both In the livingroom, AND the bedroom.
Corri, if you can find it in your heart to carve out a place of comfort for your hubby, in the place where you live naked (speaking figuratively), I think that you will find a level of commitment and fullfillment in your relationship you would have previously only dreamed about, and likely thought impossible to achieve. You have the opportunity, and the power to effect such a change. I suggest you use it wisely.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
