Nice of you to recognize her birthday for the kids.
And don't worry about not getting her anything. It would be odd if you did, given the circumstances.
As for her offering to get you something to eat, recall your own words about baby steps. Brief flashes of a touch with the real world. Nice of her, thank her, and be done with it.
In a time of significant change, it's easy to get overwhelmed. During this time it is YOUR future and the future of your children that keeps you grounded and focused. All eyes forward. Adopt the mentality of the race car driver who has no rear view mirror - what's behind is NOT important right now. The goal is ahead and not behind you.
The day will come when these matters are settled and the next stage of life has begun. I know that when you are not forced to live under a microscope, you will be able to breathe clean air and stretch your limbs once again.
It will be different, and there will be moments where you FEEL the enormity of how much life has changed. But you will be living in peace again, not subject to the pressures of life with someone who has chosen not to be with you. You can surround yourself with people who see the REAL you, not some dark version that is used to justify bad decisions. And trust me, that will be an amazing relief.
Strength and honor still ....
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
