Routine is just that - the same thing everytime. I could give details, but that seems somehow inappropriate :-)
Nope, I still want from her what I wanted many, many moons ago and have previously expressed in this forum. She is incapable of giving it. I really don't think any parlor tricks or a different color of icing is going to change the flavor of this cake. I wish it would, I wish you could, but alas, our sex life is like M&M's, you can have multi-colors, but they all taste the same...
Also, the willingness thing seems to be sliding a bit, but that is probably due to lack of interest on my part. I don't think she can blame me for any of inhibition/lack of passion/performance anxiety/whatever it is that bothers her. We tried the "place the fault on me" game, but that withered from a lack of truth.
So, at least the bed sharing and frequency issues are currently solved. Nothing short of a hormonal miracle is going to solve the rest of the dilemma. It isn't her fault either, it is just the way it is. That is her personality, a personality that I really like for the most part.
The real solution is for me to learn to live with lowered, but realistic expectations.
I can precisely describe what I am wanting from her. That is why I know she can't give it. My mistake was in thinking I could "fix" her. I had previous relationships where the sex was near perfect, but other areas suffered, so I have a referent point (multiple ones actually) to judge by.
My post wasn't really intended as a cry for help, rather for commiseration purposes and possible archival in the event someone else happens along with similar issues.
I do very much appreciate the reply.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
