Tomorrow is my 3rd wedding anniversary. I have planed to go sark for a while but now I am kind of wondering what to do.

For a quick recap we have been together dateing and married a total of 9 years on Wednesday. She moved out 8 months ago and hasn’t really looked back. Her dad just got diagnosed with prostate cancer and she is taking that frustration out on me as well. I don’t want to miss a opportunity but I also don’t want to sabotage. Help