Thanks for the hug on my thread! It made me smile.
Firstly, you aren't long winded at all. Secondly, I understand what you mean about AD's. I started taking them before Christmas last year when I was really low and they kept me on a level. The problem was that the level didn't let me feel the highs as well as the lows and for me, I need those highs to keep me going. I ended up forgetting to take them and then haven't taken them since. I think they are good if you want to stay on a level and need to function and are unable to.
I'm really sorry the job didn't work out. I would say with regards to your confusion over your wife's job it is not really your responsibility, she needs to come to realise the practicalities for herself. I would try not to read anything into it other than it just shows her confusion at the moment. I would say don't ignore what she says, listen and validate but more importantly watch her actions.
I think it was a really thoughtful thing to do to pick your wife up some food. It helped to include her and make her feel needed and thought about so hopefully should top up her love bank. It wasn't pursuing in any way, it was perfect. See if there are other little things like that you can do, but without going OTT.
Personally, I wouldn't look into the ring stuff too deeply. It seems a little strange but all WAS is a little (if not a lot) strange. Keep in mind your goals. You can't do anything about the ring and if you did it would not help you reach your end goals.
And in response to your last paragraph, don't think (taking a huge dose of her own medicine!). Thinking leads to expectations. Take it for what it is and make every interaction as positive as you can! You are doing a GREAT job Dan.
