Maybe we'll meet in London one day. In fact I have a class reunion this fall, but I am not sure if I'll go to it or not. I am not telling people what is going on with H, i.e. it's on a need-to-know basis like when people work with me and can see I'm not contributing! So I don't really want to see old friends and fake like everything is OK or actually explain the situation. I think it is between H and me only at the moment.
I know exactly what you mean about people not being supportive though. There are people who I have told about my sitch, and they say things like "just watch out for yourself", or "contact a lawyer to know where you stand", etc. I know this is all well-intentioned, but it can be exactly what you don't need to hear. DBing is one of those things that people just don't "get" unless they've been in a similar situation I think. Are you OK to just tell people that you stand where you stand, that you are coming from a position of strength and are not a doormat, and that you'd rather not discuss the situation in the future? Is this possible for you? I think people instinctively approach the LBS's like they are victims, and really just want to comfort and help. If they can see that we are strong (even if we are sometimes faking it), I think that they might back off a bit.
Hope you are doing well, and hope to see some updates soon :).
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
