I caught up on your sitch and have found you! You sound really good and strong. Thanks for posting your insights about the Passionate Marriage book. I'm interested in it, but havent purchased it yet.
I just wanted to say that no-one outside of this board in my 'real' life knows that I'm DB-ing. I think the way you handled your BF is fine. There is no way that your friends and family can understand what you have been through and why you still want to stand for your marriage. I always appear to my friends and family that I'm moving on - cause that makes them happy!
They just love you too much and they cant detach from it either. So I would say that the way you are handling it is perfect! Also creates a bit of mystery - you dont want it getting back to H that you are DB-ing!
