Quote: Eventually, he became less and less satisfied with the love she returned. He tried everything to win her affection. He treated her most affectionately, gave her gifts, getaways, long drives and walks. He took her to beautiful places and spoke beautiful words to her. He continued this for many years. She appreciated his kindness and she felt very loved, but she could never return the love in a manner that she knew he needed. She just didn't feel that way about him.
and that is precisley what reading the five love languages will help you and her to understand. sure you wouldn't have read a book with the prior gf but then you wouldn't have married her would you.
perhaps if you stop addressing the issue as a "sex" problem and instead address it as a love language issue it may be recieved better.
I understand how you feel as I have struggled with the issue myself. I have tried to fight the battle, explain myself, gotten mad, gotten sad and a whole bunch of other crappy stuff. h never understood and always gave me the "that's just the way I am" or the "that's just not the way I am" speach...the old "I can't be that person" " you want me to change" yada yada yada...I showed h ssm...he was not interested...I tried to talk to him about it as a sexual issue and it was simply pushed asside...it was not until I started to speak of the five love languages with h that he understood...what makes him feel loved is different than what makes me feel loved....recognizing the difference in our natural languages and learning to speak the others is helping me to deal with it and it may help you and your w.
