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Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
Originally Posted By: GoingForward
Let him go, Corey. Don't be so available to him all the time - talking on the phone, texting,....whatever, whenever. For your own emotional well-being, these R talks NEED TO STOP. Let him do his thing, YOU DO YOURS. Quit allowing him to drag you along.
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(((Corey)))
You only are as much as part of the drama as you allow yourself to be.

I know you are both right, but it still hurts and I've just been allowing it to more so than usual.

Just one of those days... Tomorrow will be better. I usually do much better with the no expectations thing, today just wasnt one of them. LOL


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Girl, I know what it is to be so mixed up.

You do talk to him to much, I believe. Draws you in, pushes you away.

Sounds like some people I know. \:\)

Have I let go of her? Hell no! Am I trying to? Hell yes!

Am I crazy?

Get in line.

Like you, I dread looking back some day thinking what a dumb ass I was. What a waste of time. I could have been doing so much more. I have a lot to offer.

I'm really starting to not like my GBG.


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(((H4H)))

I KNOW I talk to him too much, but I also know what it is to be really messed up and have no one who gives a rats ass about you to be there for you.

The advice I give him now is strictly as a friend. I don't try to look at it from any other perspective than that. I give him advice or my opinion like I would ANYONE. I don't do this to try and bring him back, I just see someone that I care about who is lost and hurting and I hate to see someone do that.

Letting go is so hard. I really feel like I have let go, even though we talk a lot because, more often than not it doesn't get to me. I don't know why it did today, but it did. Funny thing is, I'm better now. So weird.

If you are crazy then I hate to hear what I would be called! LOL!!!

Hang in there H4H, all you can do is all you can do!


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Glad you are feeling better!

(((Corey)))


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I had tried in vain to be that to GBG. I would tell her, "Look, if you ever trusted me. I'm just trying see things from someone who is a friend. I would never try to steer you in the wrong direction. You mean too much to me to do that to."

She just doesn't trust me. I'm the one standing between her and happiness. She has told me that.

But trying to be that friend is what keeps us bound to them. Like everyone, including yourself says, I have to let her crash on her own. I feel sorry for her and I worry about her soul.

So I pray for her, I pray for him, I pray for my kids, I pray for the great people here, and I pray for myself.


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(((Corey)))

You will see the sunny day again - the dark cloud will pass.

Just keep reminding yourself who is important - you and your k's.


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Thats all you can do...just pray.


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And stop and smell the Acqua - I mean roses along the way...:)


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Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
And stop and smell the Acqua - I mean roses along the way...:)


Bastard!!! LOL!!! Now your just being mean on purpose!!!!


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Hopefully got you to smile. If it did, then you can call me whatever you want. \:\)


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