Thank you for visiting my thread! Believe me this is very hard!!! I'm not going to kid you about it. I'm still on AD's. When my H first told me he didn't love me anymore & he wanted a D I had panic attacks & would have to wake him up (he stayed in guest room 5 months after he told me). By snooping I found out about OW & didn't go wake him anymore. He wouldn't let me talk about our wonderful past or relationship or anything. He expected me to go along with everything he wanted but I didn't. I needed a place to stay b/c of the 2 dogs (I got custody) he threatened to take them away from me (he knew that would get me) but he only did that to try to get me to go along with what he wanted.
My advice is to get a good lawyer!!!! One that will stand up & fight for you. My L did, I know it made my H mad but if they want the D then they have to pay for it. He never intended to give me what all I got, he expected to sell the house & split everything 50/50. I got the house, 3 years alimony, the dogs & he had to pay both L & the mediator. It cost him just one day of mediation over 9000.00, needless to say he wasn't happy!! But you have to look out for your best interest now b/c your H is not going to do that.
I haven't read all your threads, does your H have OW?
Pray! That is one of the main things you can do. My H married OW & it hasn't even been a year since he told me he wanted D. I think she brain washed him & he is in major MLC. I had a report run on her & she has been M'd at least 3 times, my H is #4 & she is a pro at this. He has no ideal what he has gotten himself into. I'm sure he will find out. I know now that MLC started back in 2005 but the OW didn't come along until 2007. We are D & he is M but for some reason I haven't given up, I'm trying to do things for me right now & my dogs (they are like my kids). I keep praying for him.
He got very angry with me in Jan. & cussed me out (I had a tape recording in my pants, he didn't know about it until later) I gave it to my L, I also had all kinds of airline receipts & credit card statements that he used to go see & wine & dine the OW & got cash out of our joint acct & bought her earrings for her b'day. I was very nosy & I don't condone that but he lied to me over & over & I had to find out the truth. Thank goodness, I didn't have to use all that I had on him, I didn't want to.
I'm sorry I took up so much of your thread, I just wanted to give you a short rundown of what I've been thru this past year.
We are here for you & I wish I had found this site earlier. It has save my life many times over!
