Quote: Having said that, if anyone can show me that the source of the problem is something I am doing, then I would be extremely grateful. I can change me. I won't change the unwillingness to continue status quo, however. That part is over.
in suggesting you take a look at the five love languages you would be the one doing something...you would be the one realizing exactly what her love languages are and saving yourself the time and aggrivation of doing things that aren't feeding into her primary love languages, thus lessening the resentment you feel about doing it all for her and not getting yours in the end.
doing this still doesn't make it all go away..
also learnig to understand and accept in what language w does speak...
I often thought (ok and still do sometimes) that because h wasn't physical with me as often as I'd like or would reject my physical advances that gee he must not love me...but if I step back and look at the different love languages I realize that he does infact love me very much he just shows it differently than I do...knowing what his love languages are enables me to feel loved when he speaks his language and it does take some of the pressure off of my wanting or needing sex as a means of reinforcement of his love for me...then it is simply my issue and I must address it.
