since dbing (divorce busting the original nature of this website) is to remain solution oriented, let's try to come up with some solutions to this "problem" and while we're at it..address a few possible "issues" that may be related.
ok so men and women are supposedly different but are they?
when it is "sex" you are seeking with your ld spouse what is it you are seeking? sex? a release? closeness? affection? etc?
if it is just sex for the sake of sex well then we can't say much more about that one...but if the seeking of sex is connected to other things where else can we seek it (and I don't mean another person or ourselves).
I am not suggesting simply stuffing this need aside as it will show it's ugly head or fester. but is it possible that it seems greater than it is because we focus on it rather then stepping back and looking at the r as a whole?
I want answers and solutions just as much if not more than the rest of you here..I will say it is a bit disheartening to not have at least one voice of a low desire male around...sure would help me to understand my h as right now most people think he's nuts!
