I realize it's a little different when we've already been told things are over...but here's the "symptoms" I see
dating while living with W hiding/destroying memories of the good times (regardless of whether you still have softcopies, that act was pretty damn symbolic emotionally) nothing positive to say about W (or very few) - very focused on negatives/hopelessness
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
Those types of things are not making me angry, because i have very rarely gotten angry in the past few months, i had alot of opportunities to get mad, but didn't.
This statement can be taken as detachment, or apathy, or numbness. You're inside your head, so you know better than I.
Frankly, 4 months is nothing compared to a lot of people on this board. And while I'm not one to harp on you about the dating as I have been seeing someone recently, that started 11 months after I moved in with my roommate. Yes, you're right that people deal with things differently and on different time schedules, but frankly I see you trying to fill the void in your life with a new person, and it seems too fast.
You seem to be moving very fast. Acting impulsively. You closed the door on your W very quickly is all I'm saying.
That's just what I see from your posts, obviously it's not the whole picture.
Like I said I know you gals will keep me in check, you always do
It's not that i don't have anything good to say about W, i really don't think or talk about her much. Maybe it's detachment.. keeping the GAL going, not sure. But it is what it is. I will wish W luck in the future, i don't wish ill will on anyone. As for the pics, that was symbolic for me. I am not going to put wedding pics up on the walls, so i got rid of those pics, maybe a dozen in all. Down the road, I'll decide to get rid of more or just keep them, likely the latter.
As for filling up the void, the gym fills that void, I am just looking for a friend to do things with, not more not less. If things develop , that's ok by me, if they don't fine as well.
I hope i don't sound pissed off etc, because i'm not really..
