I wish I was there when you were crying, to be a friend.
I always found constructive destruction to be very helpful.. like mowing the lawn, whacking down innocent bushes that needed .. shaping.
Feeling the anger, doing something physical to vent, then focusing on solutions is what my therapist tells me to do. Once you've done the physical, write, talk, do whatever helps you get it out. It's a multiple step process.
I don't think you both have to be there to file.. it probably adds a cost to have the papers served to you.. but you can google it for your state to confirm.
You're incredible. Let him know your boundaries, what you need during this difficult transition.
