I think that might change. He is going to see 2 women in his life: 1) OW: Clingy, wanting marriage, pushing him to do things on her clock/her way or 2) A totally detached olive, moving forward, being an amazing mom and friendly to him. Hmmm.....
Yah.. who knows.. We have had a few major blowouts recently and I have finally learned how to stand my ground - sometimes calmly, sometimes not so much..
He said recently that he wishes he could have his old life back. Interesting since it supposedly sucked so bad..
Anywho..my counter proposal is in his hands. I haven't heard a word so either he's really mad or is just accepting my changes.. The days of being married are ticking away. I'm not sure I remember how to act single. I'm not even sure I know how to act when not in crisis mode!
Get lots of rest, really. I have had so much tension for so long that I was getting by on very little sleep and not eating right. You need to be in the right frame of mind in the weeks to come. Take care of your self now. hugs
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
He said recently that he wishes he could have his old life back. Interesting since it supposedly sucked so bad..
Consequences, Olive, Consequences.
The divorce is real, the money issues are real, the thought of living with a clingy, needy, adulterous, shrew for the rest of his life is scaring the sh*t out of him.
Yeah his old life is looking pretty good. Hello.
His new life is going to suck SO bad. He's learned NOTHING about relationships. He has't changed at all. He's taking his selfish, petulant, philandering, sorry-ass, leaving you and trying to build a life with a untrustworthy, insecure woman.
I want tickets to this show. I really do. Sh*t's gonna hit the fan pretty fast. How about an episode of the surreal life? You couldn't script a trashier set of characters.
Let's look at you on the other hand. Your smart, sweet, successful and beautiful. You've learned not to take your spouse for granted. You've shown that you can keep your promises and that you have real character. Your funny and vivacious. Your new life is gonna be great.
Oh yeah, let's add his insane jealousy and regret when he sees you dating some great guy.
He's going to be sitting there one day smacking his head with his fist saying, "Stupid, stupid, stupid!!"
I think you also now by now, that unless some major miracle occurs, your husband is not the marrying kind. I wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole.
And you know he's gonna try and get in your pants after the divorce. I would bet huge money on it. All you had to do was send him one provocative text message, and he'd be over your place in a flash. This man's ego lives below his belt. Steer clear of it.
Let's look at you on the other hand. Your smart, sweet, successful and beautiful. You've learned not to take your spouse for granted. You've shown that you can keep your promises and that you have real character. Your funny and vivacious. Your new life is gonna be great.
Awww, Theo... flattery will get you everywhere I don't think I have EVER been called "sweet".. lol!
Just got back from my first vacation with just D4 and I. stbx was kind of weird about it but we had a blast!
now olive, im sure you've been called sweet!! Where did you guys go?? That's so great, especialy since she will be starting kindergarten, or does she have another year??
Your doing great!!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I'm so glad that you and DD4 had a nice time on your "girls" vacation. I'm sure it was somewhat of a wake up call for your H. He can't help but feel a little left out.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Tal - She D4 does start kindergarten. I can hardly believe it!!
Yoyo - He acted super strange before and after our trip. It was a big 180 for me to plan something and actually follow through and go it alone. Maybe it made him notice that I'm not clinging to him any longer and start to see that I will be more than ok on my own.
Was thinking about last summer and how stbx was sneaking around talking on his cell in secret. How there was a glimmer of hope here and there and how much I had hoped that this summer would be better for us.
And, here we are.. stbx "sort of" living w/ow but all of his stuff is still here, going through D, selling our dream home. Probably my last summer at the lake.
Kind of sad but I look forward to my future and getting through all of this so I can truly move on. Stbx seems almost unwilling to completely let me go.. or is that just my imagination? Right now I just feel trapped between here and there.. Beginnings and endings..
I don't think I have EVER been called "sweet".. lol!