he is in a rush but wants to make sure he is there everynight? waht a loon!!
And such a shame about your church, find a new church hon, dust the sand from your feet, leave and never come back, those people will have a LOT to answer when judgement day comes.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
You see, if they are not protecting you, then they are protecting your husband, the guy having an affair and divorcing you.
They have definately done that... protect him for a long time. Honestly, I don't even know if he goes to that church anymore. He may have joined another with his "Christian" ow - the ow that likes sleeping with other women's husbands. Or, maybe he just doesn't go to church.
Cat - I actually have found a new church that I have been attending this summer. Much more contemporary.. I like it..
Soo.. I thought we were well on our way to an agreement but stbx laid into me again regarding the FI side of the settlement. I told him we could always settle in court - the judge would award me more if we did. stbx thinks I'm being vindictive. I think I'm being completely reasonable.
Then, he tried to tell me that he still loves me. I said that was bs and even if he did his actions have shown that he hasn't respected me for a LONG time. Why do I even allow myself to be sucked into these conversations??? I swear all he is trying to do is control and manipulate me! And, sadly it still works sometimes..
Maybe the consequences are hitting him.. I don't know.. something is going on that's for sure! He is now trying to push back and control EVERYTHING because of the money thing. I think he could really care less about me. His financial picture is looking grim short-term so maybe that is hurting his plans w/ow and it must all be MY fault, right??.. I dunno..
I'm sure he cares about you on some level, but actions speak louder than words.
He's realizing he won't get everything he wants when he wants it.
This divorce will cost him.
--Theoden
Yeah, I do think they start out in la-la land that the divorce will be wonderful for them (that's what my H told me and it was also going to be wonderful for me and the kids???), and then that of course is not how it works out. There are always financial costs, my kids are going through rough times, etc. My H on the divorce papers requested he pay zero alimony or child support but I don't think it will actually work out like that for him. So I guess at some point they do have to realize reality though. And it's hard to feel any sympathy when they do!!! Karen
I'm really giving up a lot financially that the courts would reward me. That's why I'm so angry that he's trying to make me feel guilty about it at all. He is even trying to guilt me out of going away for a few days! LIke I have no right to spend ANY money!
Oddly.. I can't wait for this to be over so I can get on with my life.
I am trying to flex in that area a bit to make sure I get more of what I really want - D4! Anyway, attorney fees could stack up to more than it is worth in the end. Besides, I'm not a huge worrier about money most of the time. I'll probably die broke and living in an alley with that attitude!
