Let us all rise up and establish a new order! or at least a new thread for Sooner; we’ll call it “SOONER AND LATER”, in honor of our fickle sex drives!
Luvhub, Muppet, Lowrob,
I was thinking that one’s core values are constantly flowing but most people’s are like Mississippi mud, slow and heading one direction, but for some it is like a Southwest flash flood; a big storm hits or the climate changes and the torrent rushes along with rocks, dirt, and cactus, wiping out everything in it’s path. It can hit in minutes, without warning, areas that were once safe and dry. I believe one can change one’s values by decision but generally even after deciding to make a conscious effort it is a very long process that may take a lifetime.
I consider myself a pretty open person, in spite of my ultra conservative background and family. If it just doesn’t feel right to change a core value, you can’t do it. Life’s circumstances might do it for you. I am a long ways from the closeminded ignorance that I was raised in but not moving fast enough to keep up with a torrential woman.
I should clarify that my wife didn’t make or suggest the romantic dinners or put the candles on the table, I did. I usually make dinner. I enjoy it most of the time. We often have dinner like this(as a family), without any romantic leanings, sexual or otherwise. We simply have a nice time talking, sometimes about trivial daily activities, joking and generally carrying on in a way that would leave a lot of women that I know on fire, ready to melt. And yes, she definitely gets pissed when she’s frustrated.
Good conversation does provide a nice social lubricant between us but it often switches really quickly from a long wonderful day together to a slammed door and me sleeping alone if I’m not saying the right things. If I actually bring up any contrary points or my opinion is skewed from hers, it quickly goes down hill. In one of my last posts I mentioned I suspected PMS... well, I chuckled in irony the next day because her period started that day.
It’s all just chemistry, folks. But how do you get someone to go to the doctor to get their hormones checked if they are adamantly against it? She actually told me she didn’t even want to feel turned on; that it would just be a distraction.
Unfortunately, I have a really hard time disconnecting myself from my wife, she is so much a part of me that these troubles are like having a chronically aching limb that doesn’t always work right. It hurts and frustrates you but you can’t do anything about it. (and it won’t go to the doctor...ok so there are some flaws in my metaphors)
