Sounds good. I guess you'll just have to wait and see what happens. I see three possiblities....
1)Friendship develops and you and W slowly try to rebuild and reconcile. 2)OM decides he wants your W afterall, and he comes back into the picture and she wants him. 3)W meets a new OM.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I honestly don't expect W to come back the day after OM leaves her and want to be married or work on it. I haven't mentioned us in a relationship sense in 3 weeks. last time I did was when I told her I understand how she feels, but my door is always open for reconciliation. That's when I heard "the minute we're divorced i'm marrying the OM"
well he didn't last long enough for that, sooooooooooo.......
Good call everyone on saying affairs *usually* last a max of 6 months, my W's was only 2....not saying OM won't be back....highly unlikely........W isn't over him though, and even if she was, she wants me to believe that she isn't coming back anyway....still can't let go of the fact that I wasn't there for her when she needed me.
damn
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
still can't let go of the fact that I wasn't there for her when she needed me.
If she didn't have that *reason* to validate the affair I guarentee you she'd have another. And it could be something like, "You never gave me enough space." Having a reason will help her alleviate her guilt. No one wants to be fully responsible for their actions. It's much easier to blame someone else.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
