I noticed that the post on walk away husbands would not allow for a response - perhaps the hosts have shut off this thread?
I have very much enjoyed your posts and the many well though out responses to them. Many of the issues you are dealing with are common to readers- I don't believe there are any magic answers for this situation.
Anyway, with respect to your wife's views on your core values, the drastic changes in her values and her view that you should change to meet her new value/belief systems seem to be quite odd. I don't believe that you can change your core views/values merely to satisfy your wife's changing ideals. You can not really pretend to change your values for any substantial length of time either, I believe you would become frustrated or resentful about having to think the same way as your spouse merely to keep peace.
I also doubt that your wife would be any more sexually inclined if you fully shared her views. From your posts, it would appear that she has lost or misplaced her sex drive. Could be hormonal changes occuring earlier in life than you would have expected. Could be some other issue, doesn't seem clear at this point. Anyway, seems like there are many issues in your relationship and that your wife has become overly demanding. . In order to maintain any emotional balance in your life you will have to find inner peace and confidence through dealings with your friends, family and/or at the workplace. Otherwise, you will be constantly frustrated trying to gain acceptance and understanding from your wife.
With respect to a romantice life, until your wife is willing to consider improving this aspect of your life (through either an attitude change and/or a doctor's prescription, if necessary) you will be a very frustrated man - I know because of personal experience. Maybe your wife will want to change at some point, but until that magical day, I think you will have to either put your touch needs on hold and suffer through the frustration of your situation or find some other way to have your touch needs met.
Sorry for being so negative, but that's how I see it.
