hc, my H has had at least 10 PAs and many more EAs over the last seven years. I've posted to you before, but I've been away from the board for a while.
In a strange way, the scale of the infidelity makes it easier to see that it's not really about YOU. This is a person who has a problem and they have to deal with it - there's not much you can do from the outside.
I too can't really wrap my mind around it, although part of the problem is that if I get to close to the reality of what my H has been doing and how much it has cost us in so many ways - well, I just can't go there yet.
I understand what you mean about feeling sorry for them. I have compassion for my H, although I didn't come to it as quickly as you did. It's been years of dribs and drabs of truth slowly coming out and I have reacted with anger much of the time.
There's a forum here http://smartrecovery.org/ called Sexual Maladaptive Behaviours that I'm hoping my H will look into.
I was hoping to find some information for myself on that site about coping as the partner of a sexually addicted person, but I'm still trying to find that. I think I need to spend some more time at the book store and online to see what I can find. Hard not to feel alone in this kind of situation, isn't it?
If you find any good resources, I'd like to hear about them.
