Just keep in mind that even if she came back now nothing would be different...you'd still have issues with her spending (who wouldn't). You can certainly work through whatever issues you may have, but she's got a lot to do also...so there is no hurry on reconciling. Work to make your new found single life more fulfilling. Make yourself happy (or at least fake it until you can make it). Focus on being the best dad possible. Don't let your feelings for her make you an enabler of her poor choices and spending habits.
I wonder how well she's going to survive without you. Do you think she has someone else? Sure sounds like all the makings of a person having an affair...or at least looking to.
Makingchanges, it may help to consider that just because there are divorce papers, even if the divorce goes though, doesn't mean that you'll never be together again. But you need to use this time to grow and become the person you want to be. If she doesn't grow as well to fit in with your life...then you can decide down the line not to try again. For now it has to be about you.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
