My W has said on a few occassions that she expects me to move out so she can have the house for the k's. Totally TWISTED!
She wants to make the huge change, I don't and nor do my kids, yet she expects me to make something happen. I have repeated on every occassion that I am doing what is right for our family and I am not going anywhere. Said the same re our bed.
So here I sit today. Sad, but W is withdraeing from K's - even others have noticed.
So like you, I too am here for the entire ride - the K's are so worth every moment!
Hang on.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Guys, at this time last year my wife was totally withdrawn from the kids too. Rather than watch s11's baseball games -- which she always loved -- she'd walk around the ballfields and talk on her cellphone the entire time. Instead of watching his practices, she'd sit in her car and scribble out "budgets" about life, post-Puppy. She would leave them to fend for themselves for lunch, while she was out having sex with OM.
Tonite, as I sit here writing this, my wife is on the couch opposite from me, after getting their backpacks together for their first day of school tomorrow, made their lunches, "walked" S11 thru his map of his classes (he's starting at a new middle school), helped him with his combination lock, and she's making them chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast tomorrow.
They do come back. Just not always, and you don't get to control whether or not they do, they they do, often, come back, as good of a mother as ever.
...............and there's more like Puppy. I am HAPPILY married to my H. We are back together in all senses of the word and my 4 kids are just good to go all the time, ( apart from the usual squabbles etc.) Just keep at it Sandy
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Today will be a busy day... Doctor and attorney....
Both of which I dont want to go.. Asking for two more weeks off...I feel like this just started all oever..trying to regrip
And finding out where I stand...I am not filing...just researching..if hubby cuts off his paycheck I will be in a world of hurt.
so..like most people on here... just trying to get thru the day one at a time.....
Sandy
Glad to be awake... I had a reoccurring nightmare last night of him coming to see the kids and saying its over.... the nightmare just wouldnt stop...i would fall back asleep and dream it again.... it sucks..because that is really the reality..even haunts my sleep.
Don't read too much into it. And moreso, do not get your expectations up - in fact, expect nothing.
We just last week finished a 17 day vacation. W, D10, S13 me and another family. W was withdrawn the entire time (other family questioned me on it - was that noticeable), but I had a good time with K's and other family.
Make sure you do that - have a good time for you and K's. If H participates, great, but do not read too much into it.
Treat him politely and kindly. BUT retain the focus on you and the K's. Time together also lets you show the new Sandy!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Financial reality sucks Sandy. I understand. We have a nice lifestyle here but most of our equity is in our house. To start over for each of us meand the K's lose out on so many opportunities.
But they (WAS) do not seem to care...
Not much you can do about that right now. But now you know the reality - maybe it will also hit H.
I did a financial statement and cash flow, W looked at it and basically filed it away. Still expects to keep the house, meaning I would live in a cardboard box. But, not going there at this moment.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
