You could always let her do it on set days like Tuesday and Thursday. That would give her maybe enough to ease her mind and not go to her L. Other than that you do want her to "feel" where her choices have landed her.
You also want to find peace for yourself. I know that you will. I am here to talk if you need to. Hugs,
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory