Pisces, I agree it's best to balance out the dos and don'ts.
For example he doesn't mind me calling him but doesn't like it if its in the evenings. He will spend time around me even if I initiate but would prefer if D is with us. He doesn't like me to ask to many questions about his wherabouts so I've cut back. I try and let him deal with his negative emotions about me and our R.
I haven't detached as much as I would like to and I haven't given forgiveness or unconditional love.
I'm trying not to contact him much except if it's work, child, or financially related. I'm trying to be happy with what he can give at the moment and not make him feel bad for not giving more.
I hurt him on Thursday when I left him in the restaurant...he told me "the person who calls me their friend left me sitting alone like a dork...friends don't do that" So now I need to build his trust again.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
