Thanks for your input Login. I too believe that Jesus is the definition of unconditional love. That is God's "I love you" program. It's not necessary or possible to earn it. But I also believe he has an "I trust you" program that is associated with our efforts to truly turn our thoughts and actions to Him and to follow His will for us.
I think you're absolutely right that the lesson is to learn to love as He does. I do feel grace in my life when I take the time to stop and look at the blessings and wonders around me. There are more than I can count. Just need to keep focusing on those things instead of what I'm not getting done, while trying to get done!