Just my opinion but I would do everything possible to do things for yourself.

Take up some new hobbies, get involved with activities, groups, friends, etc.

The other thing that I absolutely believe in is that a person has to do the following:

have lots of patience
learn how to forgive
no bad-mouthing husband and ow
letting it be and leaving God to take charge
lots or prayer
loving unconditionally
do not act clingy
do not beg and plead that he not do this/do that

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19