Personally I'd steer clear of the R talk initiation, but it really depends on what 'doing something different' means for your R. If you were the kind of person who never brought it up when you were living together, it might be worth a go, but if you liked discussing it then, it's probably not such a good idea.
Can you summarise the contacts you've been having with your H and what changes you've been trying in your sitch?
In relation to the OW, I know it's hard but try not to focus on it. The best thing is to focus on your R with H and trying things to improve it. There are two schools of thought on OW knowledge- to expose, or not to expose. What do you think would be best in your situation?
