Each new "cut" hurts as much as the last!

[Abbey]

Shell,... I found out mine bought her a car, this weekend. And she's sporting a shiny nice new expensive necklace. Her and her brats are happily spending time at MY house, at MY pool.

She's been brought around to the family, met everyone... the reports back aren't "good"... however, he's their brother, and he as is your wife is right now... they won't listen to reason. One brother actually told him he was a f'g idiot for what he's doing. But it fell on deaf ears.

Mine has "lost his mind". The whole fun, care free, no problems, alls well, and the money is flowing free and easy etc... is what is the draw. He gets sex and honeymoon type attention,... she gets lavished and she sees the $$$$ signs. He's 55, she's 27 with 4 kids. Nobody thinks the insanity will last... but my H is stubborn and isn't going to admit defeat easy. He'll just do what he always does... go find another diversion to avoid the problem. Frankly, I've resigned myself to the fact that she might bleed him completely dry. Eventually, yours and my spouses OW/OM will break apart. Reality will set in eventually. It's just what to do in the mean time. I know based on what I now know, that trying to connect with him isn't going to be successful. He's right off the rails.

I've all but decided to close the door ... go very dark and just hope that it will help me work on me and save me from going into a very deep depression. It's the test of GAL... how do you do that when you don't want a life without the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with?! But...Clearly NOTHING is going to stop this freight train at the moment, and I'm assuming the same with your sitch ... so it's our job to be stable as possible, and work on us. IF we still want to pick up pieces after our nightmare stops, then we take that on as a new sitch to face. It'll be a new relationship. You and I have to face that the old one is over. That's the hardest part of this... "over". Doesn't mean never, as success stories have shown here and some of them, I don't know how they've survived it ... "over for me" now just means that chapter of my life is gone.

I'm going to try to keep some communication open, but keep it brief, keep it polite. Letting go .. is the hardest thing I'm going to have to do with this... because up til this weekend, I still had hope. Hope is now gone for me. Maybe someday .... but I no longer can count on it because it's just become too painful. I thought even up til Saturday, I could still keep hold... but I know I'm "done". It's now time to leave it in a higher power's hands.

Abbey