I agree Puppy. My xh called me "controlling" right when his A began. I swear I had never heard that word used in our M before and I was anything but controlling.
When I asked him what I did that was controlling he said "I can't even go to the grocery store without telling you I am leaving the house." I told him that wasn't something I made him do, it is just natural to tell your spouse where you are going. In reality he was mad because he couldn't figure out how to meet up with OW....because of me....therefore I was controlling.
He even admitted this later. It REALLY bothered me when he said it (it was before I was aware of the A) and so I pressed him on it later.
