I am pretty sure he was feeling guilty about the timing of the anniversary. We were talking about someting else, baseball tickets that I had bought so we could attend a game on his birthday. He said "then it's the next weekend that I will be up north for the golf outing." I said, "well our anniversary is on Friday," and he said "actually I think we are leaving Thursday because we are golfing on Friday."
So, I would guess it was guilt. He hadn't put the dates with the numbers yet. When he figured it out he tried to down play it.
I really didn't have a hard time with it last year, because I did not feel well, and I didn't feel much like celebrating. Our anniversary was on Thrusday, but the guys did not leave til Friday. We were still together at home. HOWEVER, that weekend was the first one that the EA was up at the same time all the guys were, and partied pretty hearty with my H at the bar. It was the very beginning of their R, I am sure. So I am sensitive to that timing.
And this year it is our 10th anniversary, and that is an important event to me.
However, it is still more than a month away. If I can keep making positive DB steps, he may figure to do something ahead of time for us to celebrate.
I am working hard at not having expecations. That is a hard one for me.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
