That is good that your H wasn't quick to leave. Don't be afraid to ask him for that joint activity with the girls......worst he can say is no. He was nice to let you have them Friday night.....reciprocate.
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He was doing a lot of talking about his friends and how they all have not been there for him. Everything is always about him and I just listened. He used to take the lead with every relationship ie. me, friends, family. Now he feels that it is everybody else's turn to ask him to do things and take the lead and if they don't then forget them, they never cared about me anyway. Same thing he says about me.
First off, don't believe everything he says and only half of what he does. My W's family/friends pretty much didn't support what she was doing. Your H's lack of responsibility and alienation might be related to a Quarter Life Crisis (QLC) especially since you two were high school sweethearts.....having kids is a life changing experience and he never really got to "enjoy" his youth. I am not saying this is the case but it might do you some good to read about MLC and see some of the behaviors that are prevalent and see if they ring true. On the good side, he seems to have a strong devotion to taking care of you and the children finacially. The fog you speak of is pretty typical.
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Then the yard needs taken care of. I have asked him to help me with this and he said to just call when I want him to do
So ask him to do so. You may want him to volunteer all of the time, but he is not in that mindset. Accept the fact that he offered to help and take advantage of it. It is wins across the board....opportunity for you to DB (i.e. contact and an opportunity to show your chnages), he gets to see the girls, the yard gets cut........
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
