HI, I'm so sorry I have gotten behind in keeping up with your stitch. I kind of glanced over this last thread and I see you are a long way from being over your W. I also saw where you were very upset with her about the children. So, the bottom line here (b/c it is after midnight and I've got to get my behind in the bed) is do you want her back or not?

If so and if her LL is the same as mine.......words of affirmation.....then maybe I can help just a tiny bit. I'm going to pretend that you said......."Sure, Sandi....go for it!"

Okay, first of all, stop talking to her like a husband! (ugh) That can be a big "turn-off" (teasing ya). Seriously, though, try to talk to her more like you were a different guy that was flirting with her and being "playful". Keep everything "light and fun". That way, the affirmation is easier to get into the conversation and doesn't sound so.....you know.....out of place or fake. Since you are separated, you can have an advantage of appearing more "fresh" and charming, with loads of personality......but don't over-kill or she will pick up on that in a second. Have you practiced? (lol) I don't know about you, but it may feel kind of weird to some people that are married to the person to do this, but I think it is necessary. The more you do it.....the easier it becomes.

If her LL is words of affirmation, then I can tell you that her soul is starving for it. That is probably why she said what she did in that text about you haven't acted like you had missed her. Hummm......."hint". Yeah, she wants it. (The words, I mean.)

Sweetie, I was so hungry for attention and to hear those words that I needed to hear, that when my OM came alone and started talking with that silver tongue of his......I just melted. I want YOU to be her OM with the silver tongue. Okay? Start using that charm and find different ways that you can get those shots of affirmation in there. Think about the different ways to compliment her using different adjectives.......so it doesn't sound like you are saying the same thing each time. You will have a lot of opportunities between now and December. Make the most of it.

Let me hear from you. I've missed talking with ya.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!