Thanks, Everyone! I really appreciate all your kind and encouragaing words
Maninmotion? Yes, he does kiss me while we are having sex, but never after.
Okay, so some updates...since he left that night I decided to play it a little cool and not contact him at all. He contacted me on Thursday to talk about D, but I happened to be at work and I was waiting to get my a@! reamed by my boss for being less than respectful to him so I told H I had to go. He could tell I was upset and said ok call me back. Sooooo, had the meeting with my boss and forgot to call H back. Anyway, he called about 2 hours later asking what happened and why I hadn't called...told him I forgot and updated him on issues at work.
The next day, he again called about D and was pissed off at me for not making her try out for the volleyball team as he thinks she should be involved in sports. I explained to him that the volleyball coach told D that she probably wouldn't make the team this year as she had to cut half the girls signed up to try out and most of the ones that would make it played on the team last year. The coach told her to practice and try out next year. I thought that was the coach's way of sparing D hurt feelings or embarrassment since she didn't stand a chance of making the team. At any rate, he just went on and on about how I don't support his parenting and then switched the convo to him wanting her more than his two days a week. He has her on Mon and Tues nights, all day Tues and Wed, but wants her more during the week after school. I told him he should speak with her about it as she is a teenager and since he lives 25 miles away and she wouldn't be able to hang out with her friends after school she might not like that. So, of course, that pissed him off too...he told me that it shouldn't be up to D to decide and, AGAIN, I should force her if she didn't want to. I told him if she were five it would be different but she's a teenager and I felt if he forced her she would resent him, but he was free to do as he chooses. So I tell him I'm taking D to the movie to change the subject and ask him if he would like to go...he says no...I say do you want me to stop asking...her says "I don't know what I want". I decide I shouldn't press so tell him ...to have a good night and we hang up.
Sooooo...he calls D's cell phone on Sat to tell her he loves her...doesn't ask to speak to me...whatever...it's getting easier every day. Anyway, D tells him she is going to be spending the night with my father and I could tell from her end of the convo he was grilling her as to why. She said "just cause I want to". Anyway, they hang up...I drop off D at my dad's house and go home. When I get home I notice my ringer on my cell phone had been off and apparently H had tried to call earlier in the day when D wasn't answering, so as I'm scrolling through missed calls I accidentally hit the dial missed call number button, but cancelled the action real quick. Anyway, it registered a call to him on his cell phone so he called me and said..."you called?" I said, no accidentally hit the wrong button sorry. So he asks why D is spending the night at my dad's...ask if he I have plans or something. I said, no it was D's idea so he says ok and we hang up. About 1 minute goes by and my friend calls me and asks if I want to come over to her house and play cards as her oldest just left for college and the youngest is spending time at his dad's house. While I'm talking to her, H calls back...I tell friend I'll call her right back and click over to H...he asks me something about his ring back tones on his cell phone...I tell him I have no idea how ringback tones get on your phone. He says ok and we hang up. I call friend back and let her know I'm going to get my cards and come over to play canasta. While I'm driving over to her house H calls again and asks why I didn't answer home phone. I tell him because I just left...I'm in the car. So he proceeds to tell me he figured out the ringback tones and was going to give me instructions on how I could use them but I need to be using a landline phone so he can walk me through it. I tell him..ok well I do it when I'm home. He says ok and asks where I'm going...I say to friend's to play canasta. He says ok and we hang up.
Fast forward to today...I am in the grocery store and feel like cooking a big meal so I call him to ask if he wants to have dinner with us. He says no "he doesn't feel like it" I ask him if he wants me to stop asking and he says..."if that's what you want to do". I say "well you always turn me down so I'm thinking you want me to stop". He says "it's not that...I just don't feel like it". He then asks me if I had fun lastnight and I said yes...he asks if I spent the night at friends house and I say no...why would I do that. He says I don't know...just wondering. So, I tell him have a good evening and hang up.
About 20 minutes later I'm making dinner and he calls...D answers and tells him I am busy and she'll have me call him back. I finish what I'm doing and call him and he says...he needs to change the answer that he gave me earlier. I say ok and he says "it's not that I didn't feel like coming to dinner, it's that I already have plans...I'm going to a friends house for dinner". I say ok and ask why he decided to tell me and he says because it dawned on him that he doesn't have to lie and can do whatever he wants. I say...ok well if you didn't have plans would you have come to dinner...he says he doesn't know that it would be easier if I invited him on a night when he was already going to be around to pick-up or drop off D. I jokingly ask if his friend is setting him up on a blind date and he says..."see that's why I lied at first". I say...ok ok...well I'll let you go..have fun and drive careful.
Lord have mercy this crap is making me crazy. I can't make sense of any of his actions.
