Detaching

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BND's story is one the most shining examples of an MLC success....where not only has her H come back, but they're living a happy love-filled life.

And not just because she stood and not just because she detached.

She did what was needed in the meantime. She made lots of REAL GIVING changes. And she did them not just for herself but for her H and for her relationship.

But she also didn't do them in a clinging way......if he had never come back...BND had dignity and skills that are killer. She would have been able to be successful in the next relationship had this one not worked out. AND she would have been successful had she stayed completely single.


She will talk about lots of other things, but make no mistake she made the changes that ATTRACTED HER HUSBAND back.


Some of the points that SG made are quite valid though.

Many things that my Husband would spew to me in anger were greatly exaggerated, BUT there was an element of truth to the words.

Once I had learned how to detach from him emotionally, I was able to listen to what he was saying without being sucked into the drama of his MLC.


Detaching helped her. She wasn't so detached she couldn't really hear him.