Another one joins the flock (III)

[Mike85]

I spent a great deal of time today trying to figure out whether or not to say anything to W about her L's letter. I ran through about a half a dozen different approaches, everything from just casually mentioning that I got the letter to basically informing her that I had also contacted legal help and was going to keep all options open.

I tried figuring out the spectrum of what I could expect from her and her L. Anything from a mere formalization of our current agreement (which is what she originally told me she would seek), all the way to huge demands for spousal support, child support, sale of the house, etc.

I drove myself crazy. By now I should know better.

When W finally showed up to pick up the kids, I decided to give her a set of cute pics of the kids that I took during the campout yesterday (gotta love the digital age) and to not mention the letter at all. She loved the pictures. She loved the Buffalo Bills shirts I got the kids, commented on how pretty the new Betta was (my son's died over the weekend, after three years - not bad for a $3 fish), and was really chipper.

Something in my gut told me to go with the "act as if" scenario and be Mr. Positive. Wound up getting the nice hug and kiss as she left with the kids.

I'm still calling tomorrow make an appointment with my own L, but I'm going to take the tack that I've seen other DBers mention here - W and myself will talk to our respective L's and then let my L and her L talk over the financial and other stuff between them. Until I finally see what W and her L propose, I'm going to force myself to avoid the kind of speculation that gets me into a tizzy.