Your H actually presented you with a valuable reality.
Here it is;
When he was emotional over not getting his way wanting you to watch the kids, his rational thinking went right out the window. He ranted, raved, called you names and what did it resolve... not a thing. This will hold true 99% of the time. If you are reacting to emotions, it is alomost always the wrong thing to do. You just saw it from your H. The key now is to recognize when YUOR emotions are running high and A) excuse yourself from the convo / meeting / event B) as time goes on and you improve your Acting As If, you show your confidence and let him stumble all over his emotions and see oyu standing tall. Simple in theory... tough in application.
Keep your mind active, go visit the in-laws, live YOUR life. Let him wallow in his. His character will lead him, let's see exactly what kind of character he has.
I see you and your spouse have been together the same amount of time as we have.... such a long time to give it all up
I do appreciate all the friends and support here... everyone is amazingly patient with all us rookies that keep falling into the same patterns over and over.
The part that really bothers me is the willingness to give it up on the drop of a dime. There is a lot in my sitch that makes no sense. Hell, we are even sleeping in the same bed most nights still.
Makes no sense. And it is a friggin rollercoaster.
We will survive - thois too shall pass.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
That bothers me too... from the moment I became aware that our marriage was in crisis I have read books, done soul searching on what I have done and could change etc to save our family and make the future better than the past.
I havent read your situation...I will go back thru when I have time.. I didnt realize yours is home....
This is a roller coaster... I am in for the entire ride..as long as I can ..for my kids
