Is it just sex....or more?????

[Amy M]

Hi, Changed! I also am in the same boat. But, at this point, he is your H, and you do have every right to be intimate with him. I believe that sometimes, when things are really tough, sex may be the only thing that keeps a couple together. Try not to feel cheapened by it. I do that by reminding myself that I'm using him too. In fact, since I am a married woman and don't believe in unmarried sex, he's my only option! So, he's being used. Enjoy yourself too!

Now that the door is opened, you can maybe even begin to have fun with it. In my case, there's an OW. I don't know the seriousness of their R, but now that he's moved, I'm working on having the A with him, being the OW. I'm flirting like crazy every chance I get, and I'm certianly not holding anything back in the bedroom. I do have moments when I feel really bad about it, so, I know what you mean. But, if you can separate emotionally a little, think how wonderful it will be if in future, he kisses you goodbye or stays longer or even sleeps in the bed with you!