1. Since I decided to file, I have not said one thing about it to my W. Just doesn't seem necessary. I think when/if your H decides to file, he will do the same...once a decision is made, talk just seems superfluous.
2. He does NOT want to be the bad guy. This seems to be the driver behind a lot of his actions. Unfortunately, he is now in a position where he has to be the bad guy to somebody...either break up his M or break the heart of OW.
3. Control - I don't get this either. It is obviously rooted in insecurities or fears of one sort or another. Not something I can really relate to at all. But it seems really common, the whole macho thing...whatever!
You are doing amazingly well!
Take care, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
