Maybe it's Midlife Crisis at any age?

[sleeper]

The unabreviated nomenclature is:

MID-LIFE CRISIS OF IDENTITY

That really sums it up. They are having an "identity crisis" which can happen at any age. I just so happens that one at "mid-life" is the most notorious. Maybe because at that time it's the most destructive due to the probability of a spouse and children being affected.

That's why they seem so much like adolescents (of whom none know who they are yet). They are trying to figure out who they are. They literally don't know anymore (mine told me just that), so they go through a lot of the behaviors (experimenting) like they did when they were trying to figure out who they were the first time.

If he's in anger stage just stay away from him. Take Michelle's advice. Contact with him won't help the sitch but it sure can hurt (I know it's the opposite of what you desire). If I had this all to do over again and didn't have kids I would move away to a different state.

Heck I might move to another state even with kids.